Secure In An Insecure World - Digging Deeper

Chapter 1

1. In your opinion, why are so many couples unprepared for marriage?
2. Have you ever felt like you found the one, only to later realize you were mistaken?” Briefly describe your experience. What you were thinking at the time and why?
3. What are some potential “red flags” in any relationship?
4. How does Steve describe our natural state? This is the reason many people get married.

Chapter 2

1. Why is love so misunderstood?
2. We often equate love with sex. Why do they seem inseparable? 
3. Steve describes his own battle with pornography. Why do you think it is so appealing?
4. How is real love contrasted with today’s popular version of love? 
5. Replace the word “love” with your name in the verses from 1 Corinthians 13. What does this exercise reveal about you?

Chapter 3

1. What makes us think that finding a marriage partner could be quick and easy?
2. When we want something “quick and easy” what does this usually reveal?
3. What effect has “the comparison trap” had on you in the past?
4. Isaac thought that having sex only with his wife would be boring. What do you think of his logic?

Chapter 4

1. How have you lost legs on your stool?
2. In what ways are you like your mother and/or father?
3. Why is it so difficult for us to admit our insecurities?
4. Steve writes about the impact our friends have on our security. What effect are your friends having on your relationships?
5. Can you honestly verbalize (or communicate) your fears?

Chapter 5

1. How would you define contentment? 
2. What do our circumstances have to do with contentment?
3. How does God drive out our fears?
4. Why was the author on an emotional roller coaster? Are you?

Chapter 6

1. “It’s logical to live together before marriage and find out how compatible we are.” What do you think about that reasoning?
2. What is point of the story, “Angry At Your Doctor?”
3. What is God’s design to make you complete?

Chapter 7

1. If you are divorced, why should you risk getting hurt again? Are all men dogs? Are all women impossible to live with?
2. What does Steve want to communicate through the story of Humpty Dumpty?
3. Are you ready to get married? Why, or why not?

Chapter 8

1. What is the first step to becoming secure?
2. In your own words, describe how a person receives a new life from God.
3. How can God’s gift be free when we have broken His laws?
4. Will God ever “divorce,” or stop loving, His children?

Chapter 9

1. Steve admitted that he almost married the wrong person! Why?
2. What vital lesson must we learn from the story of Abraham and his son Isaac?
3. What “Isaacs” do you need to put on the altar?
4. Discuss the Practical Suggestions with your friends. 
5. Why should Christians only marry Christians? What is your opinion?
6. Why do people date? How successful is this model of courtship? 
7. What signals have you been sending the opposite sex?

Chapter 10

1. How has your understanding of marriage changed after reading this book?
2. What are some of the benefits of making a commitment? 
3. Are you ready to commitment yourself and your marriage partner to God? Why, or why not?

Secure In An Insecure World by Stephen Scott Nelson © Copyright 2008
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